Sometimes our hearts get broken harder than usual, and it can seem like they'll never heal. Well-meaning friends may tell you "time heals all wounds," but that's not necessarily true. Some wounds never completely heal so much as the pain reaches a tolerable level.
While I don't want to frighten you with that statement, I also don't want to minimize your pain by saying that time will take care of everything. Only you know what you've been through and how deeply it impacted you.
Time on its own may not be enough. You must also take action to heal and to help yourself feel better one step at a time. The first step is acknowledging your right to a broken heart. Accept the pain as a natural response to loss. You are grieving much the same as you would if someone close to you died.
If you can reach this level of acceptance, your mood should improve a good 15%-20% right off the bat. The next step involves making sure you include any fantasies about your relationship in the grieving process. Ultimately, that is what you are losing: a fantasy about the future.
Once you recognize this, it becomes easier to separate emotionally from your ex. You may come to realize that you don't miss them as much as you miss just having someone and looking forward to that fairy-tale ending.
The ironic thing is that once you've let go and learned to see your ex more realistically, you actually stand a better chance of getting back together with him or her if it is meant to be!
Also, remember that there is more than just "one" right person out there for you. Maybe you haven't met him or her yet, but you will. When you do, I guarantee it will make up for all of the heartbreak you went through before
While I don't want to frighten you with that statement, I also don't want to minimize your pain by saying that time will take care of everything. Only you know what you've been through and how deeply it impacted you.
Time on its own may not be enough. You must also take action to heal and to help yourself feel better one step at a time. The first step is acknowledging your right to a broken heart. Accept the pain as a natural response to loss. You are grieving much the same as you would if someone close to you died.
If you can reach this level of acceptance, your mood should improve a good 15%-20% right off the bat. The next step involves making sure you include any fantasies about your relationship in the grieving process. Ultimately, that is what you are losing: a fantasy about the future.
Once you recognize this, it becomes easier to separate emotionally from your ex. You may come to realize that you don't miss them as much as you miss just having someone and looking forward to that fairy-tale ending.
The ironic thing is that once you've let go and learned to see your ex more realistically, you actually stand a better chance of getting back together with him or her if it is meant to be!
Also, remember that there is more than just "one" right person out there for you. Maybe you haven't met him or her yet, but you will. When you do, I guarantee it will make up for all of the heartbreak you went through before
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