Friday, September 24, 2010
Love poems
I Think Of You
When the breeze kisses the flowers,
When the earth gets the first showers,
When the birds chirp melodious songs,
When I feel lonely among the throngs,
I think of you hours after hours.
When the glistening stars whisper at night,
When the silvery moon throws upon us light,
When the emerald leaves murmur in serenity,
When the clouds float in the sky of divinity,
I think of you with passions bright.
When, in the sky, the rainbows arch in pride,
When, over the hills, the fountains glide,
When the confident roses spread their scent,
When the twilight becomes crescent,
I think of you craving to be your bride.
I know deep in my heart
I will be lost without your love
For I know how your love
Keep my heart beat sway with gladness
I know you have love me this much
For I can see your face vividly in my mind
Every day as I lay down on my bed
Even upon awakening, you face is there
I know that our hearts beat as one
Even without seeing each other
They can feel, and see what is inside
It’s the love for each other since the day we meet….
I am thankful that you are my love
I choose you just for me,
And be together, forever as the days will pass
Because nothing can change our love for each other ‘till the last days of our lives..
I would rather be somewhere alone with you
Instead of praying you're feeling like I do.
I'd rather be staring into the depths of your eyes
Searching, exploring, knowing, loving ...
My secret, I have decided to disclose to you.
I've never seen you, never met you, never heard
Or smelled, or touched you, never known
But truth be told,
I'm deeply, truly, madly in love with you.
Just because I know that you're in love with me too
And the nights I am secretly needing you
You're longing for me too.
To many, my tears seem insignificant
They're meaningful to you.
Someday our winding paths will meet
And I'll just know, I've found you.
Till that day, we'll have to wait
Because when we find each other
And the depths of hearts are revealed
Our love will be eternal
Worth every tearful moment that we've waited.
Though we are apart for yet another night
Our moment is a day nearer.
by Lily Tchen
I once loved you so much
And for so long.
Why did you leave
When I did nothing wrong?
Your smile was once the sun
On a dark, rainy day.
It would clear up the sky
And keep it from being gray.
Your eyes were once the shine
Of the world's glowing light.
Or were they the twinkling stars
That once filled the night?
Your hands once had power
To give me the softest touch.
They'd always give me a slight tingle,
Which is why I loved them so much.
Your hugs were once the medicine
That'd change a frown to cheer.
A shiver would run through my body
Every time I feel your love near.
Your kisses were once the wind,
They were fresh and breezy against my face.
They were gentle, so gentle,
It's something no one will replace.
But, now you like someone else,
And it's driving me insane.
Although it's over for us,
The love we had still remains.
And so I tell myself...
Never again will I cry.
You were once everything to me,
That I can't deny.
But I couldn't keep my promise
And broke out in tears.
The hours I've cried feel like days,
The days feel like years.
As I bury my face in the pillow,
And cry my heart out and grieve,
I've learned to never give away love
If love I don't receive.
When the earth gets the first showers,
When the birds chirp melodious songs,
When I feel lonely among the throngs,
I think of you hours after hours.
When the glistening stars whisper at night,
When the silvery moon throws upon us light,
When the emerald leaves murmur in serenity,
When the clouds float in the sky of divinity,
I think of you with passions bright.
When, in the sky, the rainbows arch in pride,
When, over the hills, the fountains glide,
When the confident roses spread their scent,
When the twilight becomes crescent,
I think of you craving to be your bride.
I Know Deep In My Heart
I know deep in my heart
I will be lost without your love
For I know how your love
Keep my heart beat sway with gladness
I know you have love me this much
For I can see your face vividly in my mind
Every day as I lay down on my bed
Even upon awakening, you face is there
I know that our hearts beat as one
Even without seeing each other
They can feel, and see what is inside
It’s the love for each other since the day we meet….
I am thankful that you are my love
I choose you just for me,
And be together, forever as the days will pass
Because nothing can change our love for each other ‘till the last days of our lives..
Miss You
My Darling True Love
I would rather be somewhere alone with you
Instead of praying you're feeling like I do.
I'd rather be staring into the depths of your eyes
Searching, exploring, knowing, loving ...
My secret, I have decided to disclose to you.
I've never seen you, never met you, never heard
Or smelled, or touched you, never known
But truth be told,
I'm deeply, truly, madly in love with you.
Just because I know that you're in love with me too
And the nights I am secretly needing you
You're longing for me too.
To many, my tears seem insignificant
They're meaningful to you.
Someday our winding paths will meet
And I'll just know, I've found you.
Till that day, we'll have to wait
Because when we find each other
And the depths of hearts are revealed
Our love will be eternal
Worth every tearful moment that we've waited.
Though we are apart for yet another night
Our moment is a day nearer.
You Were Once
by Lily Tchen
I once loved you so much
And for so long.
Why did you leave
When I did nothing wrong?
Your smile was once the sun
On a dark, rainy day.
It would clear up the sky
And keep it from being gray.
Your eyes were once the shine
Of the world's glowing light.
Or were they the twinkling stars
That once filled the night?
Your hands once had power
To give me the softest touch.
They'd always give me a slight tingle,
Which is why I loved them so much.
Your hugs were once the medicine
That'd change a frown to cheer.
A shiver would run through my body
Every time I feel your love near.
Your kisses were once the wind,
They were fresh and breezy against my face.
They were gentle, so gentle,
It's something no one will replace.
But, now you like someone else,
And it's driving me insane.
Although it's over for us,
The love we had still remains.
And so I tell myself...
Never again will I cry.
You were once everything to me,
That I can't deny.
But I couldn't keep my promise
And broke out in tears.
The hours I've cried feel like days,
The days feel like years.
As I bury my face in the pillow,
And cry my heart out and grieve,
I've learned to never give away love
If love I don't receive.
Thursday, September 23, 2010
How To Make A Girl Fall In Love With You
Getting a girl of your dreams is much like getting the car of your dream. But unlike a car which you can always bargain for, there is nothing like a 20 percent discount in courting the girl of your dreams, she's so sweet a thing to be discounted, you dearly are in love with her and your feelings for her can only be communicated not by the words of the mouth, but by the words of the heart. Getting the girl actually depends on how big your heart is - faint heart, never won fair lady.
The first step in the heart-winning exercise for any man is to make a good impression. In your doing so, you don't have to talk, dress or do the common things that all the Toms do to get a decent girl's attention. Be unique, that's all you need. Be a man of his own style. Dress decently - indecency can make one be mistaken for arrogance; watch your language - obscene language gives the impression of immaturity, being uncultured and cheap; be a man of good habits - don't drink or smoke like any other loser.
Let her fall in love gradually. Romance is an important part of falling in love. When in College I had a crush on the most beautiful lady in our first year lot. Though all senior guys were out to get that girl, I managed to divert her attention from the other guys. I wrote her three letters without disclosing my identity and slid into her room secretly; all I said was 'Yours Secret Admirer.' The first letter contained the meaning of her name, this I got by playing around with the initials of her name to make meaning. The second was a funny message that could only be read backwards and it was all about her physique and her smartness. In the third letter I told the girl to be ready to receive a rose flower from her admirer, but only if she could be kind enough to phone him using a number that I had included in the letter. The girl did phone me that very night, and her first words to me were, "Hallo Secret Admirer." So, the story of our love affair came to be. Later she told me that was so creative of me, no one had approached her in that manner. I made her fall in love with me in the romantic manner.
Befriending and understanding the girl you are out to get is the next important thing. This is what I also did. You have to understand that as a lady, she loves to be loved, adores to be adored and needs to be needed. This will move you closer to the girl and you'll get to know what she's into, what she likes and dislikes, and what her style is. Love is built upon friendship and it always leaves individuals better off having known each other should they break up. I and my College steady were to break some time later but to date, we are the best of buddies. Be sure that bringing out the selflessness friend in you will make her create room for you in her heart.
A shoulder to lean on and some good friend that she can always turn to is all that a lady wants. Please don't hesitate to be helpful and supportive. Be that friend who rekindles her zeal of hardworking and restoring hope back into her life when she looses hope. This above all other things will make you her daily vitamin simply because you bring out the best in her in terms of personality and character. In you, she'll have found that friend whom she can open up to, share with and advice each other on the rights and wrongs, the dos and don'ts of life. Don't forget to always be there to celebrate the good times, and to lend an ear when the girl needs you to listen as a friend.
Make the girl feel special; because she's someone's friend - your friend, and let her know that she too has touched your life in a unique way like no one else could. Compliment her for her company and for being there when you needed her, when you felt sad and all alone. Show appreciations for the comfort the girl offers you and for making you smile.
In your day to day talks, share your dreams, your world, and every aspect of your life with your girl. Always dream with her, build with her, and always cheer her on and encourage her. Tell your girl how you always think about her even when you try not to think about her. Let the girl know that she's your first thing in the morning and the last thing when you go to bed at night.
Her knowing that you were thinking of her when you slipped beneath the softness of your blanket and gave in to the bliss of sweet dreams, will make her go 'my my' and her heart will sing your name all the year round.
You have to be creative and constructive to keep girl's interest in you so full of life. I remember one time I told my girlfriend to be to imagine we are both deaf and dump. We then sat opposite each other on the table and started sharing our feelings for each other using eyes and hand signs. It turned out to be some fun. There was also this time that we were in the library and we decided we are not going to speak to each other verbal, so I wrote a love note on a paper and passed it across the table to her, she replied and on and on we carried on our love on paper conversation till we almost exhausted a whole rim of paper. At sometime, I noticed that some guys sited with us on the table were enjoying our ordeal than their studies. Such are the things that made the girl embrace my world. I remember her suggesting that we play deaf and dump two years after we broke up, can you imagine that?
Never fail to phone her, even when she least expects it. I once called some girl that I was interested in at four o'clock in the morning. When inquiring of what I was doing up so early, I told her I was in thirteenth heaven, where people think of their loved ones when they can't sleep. Wow! First thing early the next morning, she was at my door with a king-sized hug for me.
No matter how many dates you take her, don't make any elbow - exceeding moves after any date, just drop her home and with a friendly handshake, wish her good night. Don't kiss her when she expects you to. Your respect as a gentleman will be earned on how patient you are with her when it comes to such matters as kissing her and accessing her inner graces.
The writing is on the wall that you want her, but you can't have her just yet. Increase your demand. Try to show her that men are also hard to get at times. Make her realize that when she feels a little dizzy, a little tired, a little sad, a little sick, a lot bored and very much cold, she's actually missing vitamin you. By this time, she'll be so much into you and since love is truthful and is characterized by open and honest communication, honestly promise her your everlasting devotion, loyalty, respect, and your unconditional love for a lifetime. Prove to her that you'll always be there for her, to listen and to hold her hand, and that you'll always do your best to make her happy, and feel loved.
Remember, patience is the key to her heart; be like that gardener watching a fruit as it hangs on the tree, day after day admiring it, but, exercising tremendous self-discipline, neither feeling the fruit, nor pinching it, nor testing it to see if it is ready. And then, one day he holds out his hand and the fruit simply drops into it, ripe, warm and eager to be eaten.
The patience and self-control which you practice will make you more attractive and charming. This will qualify you as her daily vitamin and win you that heart hers.
I wish you to meet the girl of your dreams ASAP, make her fall in love with you, and make her feel the happiest girl in the world!
The first step in the heart-winning exercise for any man is to make a good impression. In your doing so, you don't have to talk, dress or do the common things that all the Toms do to get a decent girl's attention. Be unique, that's all you need. Be a man of his own style. Dress decently - indecency can make one be mistaken for arrogance; watch your language - obscene language gives the impression of immaturity, being uncultured and cheap; be a man of good habits - don't drink or smoke like any other loser.
Let her fall in love gradually. Romance is an important part of falling in love. When in College I had a crush on the most beautiful lady in our first year lot. Though all senior guys were out to get that girl, I managed to divert her attention from the other guys. I wrote her three letters without disclosing my identity and slid into her room secretly; all I said was 'Yours Secret Admirer.' The first letter contained the meaning of her name, this I got by playing around with the initials of her name to make meaning. The second was a funny message that could only be read backwards and it was all about her physique and her smartness. In the third letter I told the girl to be ready to receive a rose flower from her admirer, but only if she could be kind enough to phone him using a number that I had included in the letter. The girl did phone me that very night, and her first words to me were, "Hallo Secret Admirer." So, the story of our love affair came to be. Later she told me that was so creative of me, no one had approached her in that manner. I made her fall in love with me in the romantic manner.
Befriending and understanding the girl you are out to get is the next important thing. This is what I also did. You have to understand that as a lady, she loves to be loved, adores to be adored and needs to be needed. This will move you closer to the girl and you'll get to know what she's into, what she likes and dislikes, and what her style is. Love is built upon friendship and it always leaves individuals better off having known each other should they break up. I and my College steady were to break some time later but to date, we are the best of buddies. Be sure that bringing out the selflessness friend in you will make her create room for you in her heart.
A shoulder to lean on and some good friend that she can always turn to is all that a lady wants. Please don't hesitate to be helpful and supportive. Be that friend who rekindles her zeal of hardworking and restoring hope back into her life when she looses hope. This above all other things will make you her daily vitamin simply because you bring out the best in her in terms of personality and character. In you, she'll have found that friend whom she can open up to, share with and advice each other on the rights and wrongs, the dos and don'ts of life. Don't forget to always be there to celebrate the good times, and to lend an ear when the girl needs you to listen as a friend.
Make the girl feel special; because she's someone's friend - your friend, and let her know that she too has touched your life in a unique way like no one else could. Compliment her for her company and for being there when you needed her, when you felt sad and all alone. Show appreciations for the comfort the girl offers you and for making you smile.
In your day to day talks, share your dreams, your world, and every aspect of your life with your girl. Always dream with her, build with her, and always cheer her on and encourage her. Tell your girl how you always think about her even when you try not to think about her. Let the girl know that she's your first thing in the morning and the last thing when you go to bed at night.
Her knowing that you were thinking of her when you slipped beneath the softness of your blanket and gave in to the bliss of sweet dreams, will make her go 'my my' and her heart will sing your name all the year round.
You have to be creative and constructive to keep girl's interest in you so full of life. I remember one time I told my girlfriend to be to imagine we are both deaf and dump. We then sat opposite each other on the table and started sharing our feelings for each other using eyes and hand signs. It turned out to be some fun. There was also this time that we were in the library and we decided we are not going to speak to each other verbal, so I wrote a love note on a paper and passed it across the table to her, she replied and on and on we carried on our love on paper conversation till we almost exhausted a whole rim of paper. At sometime, I noticed that some guys sited with us on the table were enjoying our ordeal than their studies. Such are the things that made the girl embrace my world. I remember her suggesting that we play deaf and dump two years after we broke up, can you imagine that?
Never fail to phone her, even when she least expects it. I once called some girl that I was interested in at four o'clock in the morning. When inquiring of what I was doing up so early, I told her I was in thirteenth heaven, where people think of their loved ones when they can't sleep. Wow! First thing early the next morning, she was at my door with a king-sized hug for me.
No matter how many dates you take her, don't make any elbow - exceeding moves after any date, just drop her home and with a friendly handshake, wish her good night. Don't kiss her when she expects you to. Your respect as a gentleman will be earned on how patient you are with her when it comes to such matters as kissing her and accessing her inner graces.
The writing is on the wall that you want her, but you can't have her just yet. Increase your demand. Try to show her that men are also hard to get at times. Make her realize that when she feels a little dizzy, a little tired, a little sad, a little sick, a lot bored and very much cold, she's actually missing vitamin you. By this time, she'll be so much into you and since love is truthful and is characterized by open and honest communication, honestly promise her your everlasting devotion, loyalty, respect, and your unconditional love for a lifetime. Prove to her that you'll always be there for her, to listen and to hold her hand, and that you'll always do your best to make her happy, and feel loved.
Remember, patience is the key to her heart; be like that gardener watching a fruit as it hangs on the tree, day after day admiring it, but, exercising tremendous self-discipline, neither feeling the fruit, nor pinching it, nor testing it to see if it is ready. And then, one day he holds out his hand and the fruit simply drops into it, ripe, warm and eager to be eaten.
The patience and self-control which you practice will make you more attractive and charming. This will qualify you as her daily vitamin and win you that heart hers.
I wish you to meet the girl of your dreams ASAP, make her fall in love with you, and make her feel the happiest girl in the world!
Sunday, September 12, 2010
Long Lasting Love Relationships
Dating and establishing love relationships can be compared to choosing a vehicle. You pick out the make, model, year, color and features that you believe are best for you. After driving your vehicle for a couple of months, you realize that perhaps you should have purchased a larger car, or that maybe the leather seats would have been better, or on hot sunny days, the sunroof would have been nice. However, it is now too late so you choose to keep your car and accept the decision you made. It is the same for a marriage or couple relationship. Not everything will be perfect and there will be major obstacles to overcome but you have made your decision and now you choose to make it work no matter which marriage troubles you are experiencing.
Dating and marriage is different than it was thirty years ago. Today, more than 50% of all marriages fail for one reason or another. Just thinking about that makes "commitments" and marriage vows seem scary. It seems that when relationships are faced with challenges, people quit trying. Dating is more like a marathon, trying to date as many people as possible, instead of taking time to get to know someone on a deeper level. For married couples, divorce is not biased. Whether married for thirty years or eight months, the outcome can be the same.
The fact is that relationships, whether dating or married, are hard. Things do not always go perfectly, fighting does occur, and it takes a 100% commitment from both parties to make it a success. Often when people break off a relationship, they feel as though something is missing. The "spark" has gone, leaving one or both people feeling inadequate and unfulfilled.
However, even though the odds are not very good, it has been proven by many people that healthy and long-lasting relationships are definitely possible. Look at Paul Newman and Joanne Woodard, Danny Devito and Rhea Perlman, or Nancy and Ronald Regan. What secrets do and did they possess? The answer is: work hard at the relationship. They made a decision of choosing to love their mate rather than relying on the "warm and fuzzy" feelings, which everyone knows will fade. By making love a choice, you are making a decision that even in the bad times, you stick it out.
There are hundreds of things you can do to build, strengthen, and enhance your relationship. You can find lots of relationship self help resources online. Remember, little steps taken every day will add up to big successes.
Dating and marriage is different than it was thirty years ago. Today, more than 50% of all marriages fail for one reason or another. Just thinking about that makes "commitments" and marriage vows seem scary. It seems that when relationships are faced with challenges, people quit trying. Dating is more like a marathon, trying to date as many people as possible, instead of taking time to get to know someone on a deeper level. For married couples, divorce is not biased. Whether married for thirty years or eight months, the outcome can be the same.
The fact is that relationships, whether dating or married, are hard. Things do not always go perfectly, fighting does occur, and it takes a 100% commitment from both parties to make it a success. Often when people break off a relationship, they feel as though something is missing. The "spark" has gone, leaving one or both people feeling inadequate and unfulfilled.
However, even though the odds are not very good, it has been proven by many people that healthy and long-lasting relationships are definitely possible. Look at Paul Newman and Joanne Woodard, Danny Devito and Rhea Perlman, or Nancy and Ronald Regan. What secrets do and did they possess? The answer is: work hard at the relationship. They made a decision of choosing to love their mate rather than relying on the "warm and fuzzy" feelings, which everyone knows will fade. By making love a choice, you are making a decision that even in the bad times, you stick it out.
There are hundreds of things you can do to build, strengthen, and enhance your relationship. You can find lots of relationship self help resources online. Remember, little steps taken every day will add up to big successes.
Love - Why Some People Have a Hard Time Expressing Their Love
Sometimes our hearts get broken harder than usual, and it can seem like they'll never heal. Well-meaning friends may tell you "time heals all wounds," but that's not necessarily true. Some wounds never completely heal so much as the pain reaches a tolerable level.
While I don't want to frighten you with that statement, I also don't want to minimize your pain by saying that time will take care of everything. Only you know what you've been through and how deeply it impacted you.
Time on its own may not be enough. You must also take action to heal and to help yourself feel better one step at a time. The first step is acknowledging your right to a broken heart. Accept the pain as a natural response to loss. You are grieving much the same as you would if someone close to you died.
If you can reach this level of acceptance, your mood should improve a good 15%-20% right off the bat. The next step involves making sure you include any fantasies about your relationship in the grieving process. Ultimately, that is what you are losing: a fantasy about the future.
Once you recognize this, it becomes easier to separate emotionally from your ex. You may come to realize that you don't miss them as much as you miss just having someone and looking forward to that fairy-tale ending.
The ironic thing is that once you've let go and learned to see your ex more realistically, you actually stand a better chance of getting back together with him or her if it is meant to be!
Also, remember that there is more than just "one" right person out there for you. Maybe you haven't met him or her yet, but you will. When you do, I guarantee it will make up for all of the heartbreak you went through before
While I don't want to frighten you with that statement, I also don't want to minimize your pain by saying that time will take care of everything. Only you know what you've been through and how deeply it impacted you.
Time on its own may not be enough. You must also take action to heal and to help yourself feel better one step at a time. The first step is acknowledging your right to a broken heart. Accept the pain as a natural response to loss. You are grieving much the same as you would if someone close to you died.
If you can reach this level of acceptance, your mood should improve a good 15%-20% right off the bat. The next step involves making sure you include any fantasies about your relationship in the grieving process. Ultimately, that is what you are losing: a fantasy about the future.
Once you recognize this, it becomes easier to separate emotionally from your ex. You may come to realize that you don't miss them as much as you miss just having someone and looking forward to that fairy-tale ending.
The ironic thing is that once you've let go and learned to see your ex more realistically, you actually stand a better chance of getting back together with him or her if it is meant to be!
Also, remember that there is more than just "one" right person out there for you. Maybe you haven't met him or her yet, but you will. When you do, I guarantee it will make up for all of the heartbreak you went through before
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Wednesday, September 8, 2010
Love Tips II - Free Relationship Advice and Date Ideas for a better Love Life
Discover how to enhance your Relationship with these simple date idea and Free Advice
- Expect the unexpected. Be spontaneous and suggest something completely out of character. Send an intimate greeting card for no reason. Suddenly stop beside a country road, breath in the fresh air and say, "I love you!" and then be on your way. If your partner loves sports on TV, sit alongside and watch the game, too. Let your imagination have free reign.
- Who said life had to be so serious? There will be faux pas and rock and roll! So what? Better to just roll with the punches. Poke fun at yourself, it is very refreshing, but, not at your partner. That's their own job. Smile all the time.
- Take on “the art of communicating.” An entire book could be written on this subject! Your communication is the most important aspect of your love life. Without it, you are only half a person. We communicate in all kinds of ways, including verbal and non-verbal.
- Just be very open to your partner and listen. Listening is the key to communicating. When you are communicating well you feel connected. When you feel disconnected you become distant. Your love life cannot survive being distant.
- Watch what you say. Choose the words you speak with great care. Words hastily offered are not easily retrieved. They become your reality. Your love life lives on the tip of your tongue.
- Make an effort each day to tell your partner how much they mean to you and how much they are appreciated. Talk with tenderness. Use terms of endearment, such as "Honey," "Sweetie," "Baby," etc. and be polite, saying "thank you." Whisper even the simplest of words that reflect your love and your relationship will grow.
- Nurture your love life with words of affection, understanding, acceptance and forgiveness. Nurture is to nourish, educate, grow or develop; cultivate.
- Cultivate a healthy love life. Healthy couples can identify problems with confidence. They can talk openly and honestly about their differences and come to workable solutions. Work on this actively, or the relationship will evaporate.
- Trusting and Being Trusted. Be a straight shooter. Trust is the great equalizer in a good relationship; without it there is no good! A good foundation in a healthy love relationship is built on trust and trust must be earned. Holding back on the truth about how you feel, only telling part of the story, fudging on what your wants and needs are to your partner slowly erodes the trust in your relationship. Total honesty brings about awesome trust. Do all that you can to achieve it!
- Go the extra mile. Motivate each other to be the best you can be. Be inventive in coming up with ways to inspire your love life. Never stop. NEVER! Push the romance envelope with a getaway in the mountains for a long weekend. Splurge and go all out! Use your imagination.
- Agree to Agree. It is important to understand that relationships seldom feel easy; however, a relationship is less of a struggle when two people agree to do whatever it takes to make it workable. This does not mean "giving it your best shot and if it doesn't work, you move on." This means doing whatever it takes!
- Memories last a lifetime - So can your love life. Create a love scrapbook. Stash your memories of special greeting cards, matchbook covers that remind you of great visits, snapshots, a pressed flower, ticket stubs, a handwritten love poem, a funny, thoughtful valentine.
- Celebrate spending time together living out a life’s dream. If you have always wanted to see Whitney Houston in concert, go! Save the concert tickets and program and frame them as a life long memory the two of you have shared.
- Spread a little sunshine. Give each other permission to their own space. Nothing grows well in the shade! If you are forever in your loved one’s pocket, you can stifle the love so freely given. Even love partners need time alone. You need space. This is another way to love yourself, first.
- Call the love doctor. A lack in your love life is nearly always a symptom of something that needs fixing in the relationship. Work on being more attentive, thoughtful and creative in expression of your love and your love life with come alive again.
- Go on a date with your partner. Even relationships that are old-hat need new juice! Once every week plan to spend some quality date time together. Enlist a trusted friend to stay the night with your kids and head for the “ten buck a night motel.” Relive those olden days when you really lit the fire.
- Practice volume control when talking. A quiet loving voice is respectful and will get you more of what you want, more often.
- Push your partner’s hot buttons - Push them spontaneously. I'm not talking about the ones you shouldn’t push. Push the turn-on buttons. Know what delights and pleases your partner and push those buttons often. [Pay special attention to do this. Often a warm and tender hug, a kiss on the back of the neck or an unexpected massage is all it takes to get those home fires burning again]. Remember that your love life is something that needs to be worked on all the time and not only when it is broken and needs to be fixed.
- Practice Prevention - Don't allow your relationship to slide into oblivion. Look at your love life as an active, breathing thing. Life needs to be refueled and taken care of. Look at the many ways you can actively prevent your love life from sizzling out.
- Learn to love more, smarter. You can acquire a healthier and stronger love life when you are learning more about what makes them so. Visit quality relationship sites on the Internet. Develop a desire to read. Join a book club and read together. Subscribe to relationship ezines. Attend relationship seminars. Get love life coaching. You can never be too
smart about loving relationships.
- Priorities, priorities. Abandon the idea once and for all that your life is your work. Don’t confuse your career with your life. The same is true of your relationship! Relationship must always come first, then your career.
Tuesday, September 7, 2010
Six Easy Tips to Help You Love With Courage
Courage: Bravery, Quality of Spirit, which faces danger without flinching. Fortitude.
To Love: Passionate devotion
It takes real courage to love well. A brave heart is required to give and receive, share, learn and keep growing in love. Faced with the variety of challenges, occasional ghouls and pitfalls, love is a feat of the emotional fittest.
When we have been hurt or saddened by a love experience it can leave us less than eager to be courageous in this department. Love though takes our bravery to create the kind of relationship that we really want.
Courage to love asks for a degree of detachment from the outcome. It involves connecting to your carefree and joyful nature. Courage also requires training yourself for love to make you ready for the sensitivity and application that you must have to consistently love well.
Detaching from the Outcome
Asking that special someone out, even if you are not sure they will want to go... Being the first to tell your new partner you are in love even if you don't know what they will say... Telling your lover the truth about what you want intimately even though it may be a challenging conversation... These are the moments that define a relationship.
Each of these acts of courage must happen to begin a relationship, bring you and your partner closer and keep growing in your relationship. Detachment to the outcome of the response supports you in being courageous in these moments.
Not that it isn't a bit scary, it is. However it can be energizing and exciting to take the risk in love and do what you thought you couldn't. By letting go of control to have it end up the way you want it to allows you to become more confident-- even if the answer doesn't go your way, and love with more courage and enthusiasm.
Your Carefree and Joyful Nature
Having lightness in your heart develops your courage. Children love naturally and easily. It is always a joy to have a child run up and throw their arms around you and give you a hug and kiss. Connecting with your carefree, childlike nature can help you regain your passion, juice and courage to love with open arms.
Love Training
Training yourself to be courageous in love begins with your mental attitudes and capacity to love and is completed in your courageous loving application with your loved one.
Love Yourself More
Are there aspects of yourself that you frequently criticize or don't feel good enough about? If so, what prevents you from loving yourself is your own critical mind.
Retraining the mind to not see what is wrong with you but what is right with you helps you to love yourself more. Finding love for those thighs, that funny quirk of yours, or the challenges that you are facing in your life right now all help to develop greater security in yourself that translates into more confidence and magnetism.
When we aren't loving ourselves we can find faults with others quickly. We attempt to bring them down to where we feel comfortable rather than build them up. Making others feel insecure and off balance doesn't enhance love, it destroys it. And holding others security in your hands is a sign of low self-esteem.
Loving yourself more opens up greater resources of love within you to more fully love and respect that special someone in your life.
To Love Another Courageously
To truly love another we have to learn to come out of ourselves for each other. It is our tendency to be absorbed in what we need and want, therefore always projecting those needs onto our partner. But we can train ourselves to be more sensitive to our partner's needs and desires which are separate from our own and still not leave ourselves out of the equation.
This is where our courage comes in.
We must be courageous to see our partner in their fullest joy and divine essence. We must learn to hear their truth, to respect and cherish them, to support them in having what they want in their lives, and to keep sharing and growing in love with them.
How we consistently apply our courage to loving our partner in these areas crystallizes the quality of our relationship. Courage to love another not for a few days, months, or years but for the long-term requires ongoing courage and creativity on our parts, abandoning our need to control, and a real and wondrous connection to our carefree and childlike joy.
To Love: Passionate devotion
It takes real courage to love well. A brave heart is required to give and receive, share, learn and keep growing in love. Faced with the variety of challenges, occasional ghouls and pitfalls, love is a feat of the emotional fittest.
When we have been hurt or saddened by a love experience it can leave us less than eager to be courageous in this department. Love though takes our bravery to create the kind of relationship that we really want.
Courage to love asks for a degree of detachment from the outcome. It involves connecting to your carefree and joyful nature. Courage also requires training yourself for love to make you ready for the sensitivity and application that you must have to consistently love well.
Detaching from the Outcome
Asking that special someone out, even if you are not sure they will want to go... Being the first to tell your new partner you are in love even if you don't know what they will say... Telling your lover the truth about what you want intimately even though it may be a challenging conversation... These are the moments that define a relationship.
Each of these acts of courage must happen to begin a relationship, bring you and your partner closer and keep growing in your relationship. Detachment to the outcome of the response supports you in being courageous in these moments.
Not that it isn't a bit scary, it is. However it can be energizing and exciting to take the risk in love and do what you thought you couldn't. By letting go of control to have it end up the way you want it to allows you to become more confident-- even if the answer doesn't go your way, and love with more courage and enthusiasm.
Your Carefree and Joyful Nature
Having lightness in your heart develops your courage. Children love naturally and easily. It is always a joy to have a child run up and throw their arms around you and give you a hug and kiss. Connecting with your carefree, childlike nature can help you regain your passion, juice and courage to love with open arms.
Love Training
Training yourself to be courageous in love begins with your mental attitudes and capacity to love and is completed in your courageous loving application with your loved one.
Love Yourself More
Are there aspects of yourself that you frequently criticize or don't feel good enough about? If so, what prevents you from loving yourself is your own critical mind.
Retraining the mind to not see what is wrong with you but what is right with you helps you to love yourself more. Finding love for those thighs, that funny quirk of yours, or the challenges that you are facing in your life right now all help to develop greater security in yourself that translates into more confidence and magnetism.
When we aren't loving ourselves we can find faults with others quickly. We attempt to bring them down to where we feel comfortable rather than build them up. Making others feel insecure and off balance doesn't enhance love, it destroys it. And holding others security in your hands is a sign of low self-esteem.
Loving yourself more opens up greater resources of love within you to more fully love and respect that special someone in your life.
To Love Another Courageously
To truly love another we have to learn to come out of ourselves for each other. It is our tendency to be absorbed in what we need and want, therefore always projecting those needs onto our partner. But we can train ourselves to be more sensitive to our partner's needs and desires which are separate from our own and still not leave ourselves out of the equation.
This is where our courage comes in.
We must be courageous to see our partner in their fullest joy and divine essence. We must learn to hear their truth, to respect and cherish them, to support them in having what they want in their lives, and to keep sharing and growing in love with them.
How we consistently apply our courage to loving our partner in these areas crystallizes the quality of our relationship. Courage to love another not for a few days, months, or years but for the long-term requires ongoing courage and creativity on our parts, abandoning our need to control, and a real and wondrous connection to our carefree and childlike joy.
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